Birthday Wisdom

I've been a bit MIA this past month over here on the blog.  In truth, I've been cutting back my social media and my online presence and trying to spend more time with my boys and family in the REAL and now.  Crazy right?!?  But don't think I've forgotten about all you wonderful peeps here in computer land!

Let's start July off with something I meant to post here last month, yeah?  My 35th birthday was just a few days ago and in honor of my impending "old age", I decided to share some wisdom and words of truth with you all.  Here goes, enjoy!

IN honor of my special day, I want to share some pearls of wisdom with y'all & hope that you'll join me in celebration of today. Not because it's my birthday (which is nice & all...) but because today is a wonderful day for celebrating. 👊

#1- Hairspray in the can works WAY better than hairspray in the plastic bottle. Sorry ozone- sad but true. Buy the can.

#2- No ones child is perfect, not even yours. You might be tempted to think so on the rare occasion, but the answer is still no. Still not perfect.

#3- Once you hit 25, you should no longer be buying the cheap makeup. Life is too short to look like a wrinkly Oompa Loompa. Buy the good shit, trust me.

#4- You know you've found a good man when he loves you just as much at your worst as he does at your best. Like when your on the table having an emergency c-section & he stands up to watch the birth of his son & after seeing all your INSIDES on your OUTSIDES, still thinks you are beautiful. Hold on to this man. Forever.

#5- Don't wear white to Disneyland. Or to any theme park or fairground for that matter. Just no. Believe me on this one mmkay....

#6- There's a reason DOG spells GOD backwards. Dogs will love you unconditionally, dogs will listen to your prayers & dogs will heal your heart one tiny piece at a time if only you'll let them. Just like God.

#7- Don't waste the calories on bad cake. And yes- there is such a thing as bad cake.

#8- No one died from saying the F word.

#9- You will never be remembered for the superficial. But rather for the way you've made people feel so be careful what you say & do because your actions & words have consequences.

#10- It's ok to say no. To all the things. And you don't even need a reason.

#11- Marriage is forever. Don't make it a prison sentence.

#12- Remove the toxic people from your life & from your children's lives. Not everyone deserves a place at your table.

#13- Flip flops work with every outfit. Every. Single. One

#14- When you are wrong, be quick to apologize. Learn how to offer a sincere & REAL apology & don't be afraid to admit you've made a mistake. We all make mistakes. How you respond in the face of it is what shapes your character.

#15- Love like it's going out of style.

#16- The answer is yes, buy the shoes.

#17- Friendships are hard. Especially women & mommy friendships. Try your best but remember it's better to have a few real friends than a herd of fake ones. Quality not quantity.

#18- Your issues are NOT my issues. Bye Felicia.

#19- Make the effort in your appearance. Not because society tells you to or out of fear of judgment, but because you are worth the effort. When you look good, you feel good. And when in doubt, just buy a FIERCE handbag & call it good.

#20- You are special & loved & important just as you are. The only person you should change for is YOU.

What would you add to this list?

Love to you all!
The Homeschooled Housewife

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I Would Encourage You....

Well it's official folks- I'm now offering advice to the younger generation.  Gah.  I used to be the younger generation but now it seems that I'm becoming part of the older, wiser generation.

Perfect case in point.

Yesterday I was speaking with someone and he told me he didn't know how to go about renting a house.  A twenty year old doesn't know how to do something that I've now done more than once.  Crap.

And then he talked to me about just buying a house...with someone who is not financially responsible.

So I felt compelled to say- STOP.  That's a bad idea mmkay....although I did word it a little nicer.  In fact, my new favorite phrase seems to be anything that begins with the words, "I would encourage you to....." followed by my sage advice that can only come from too many life experiences.

Is this what it feels like to be in your mid-thirties?

I've dated.  I've married.  I've birthed.  I've bought and sold 2 houses.  Rented houses.  Had poor credit.  Had excellent credit.  I've bought cars.  Been hospitalized.  Had major surgeries.  Been through traumatizing health scares.  Vacationed without my parents.  Hosted big, major events in my own home.  Hell- I have my own home.

It's official.

I'm a grown up.

And it just feels so weird.  And it just feels so foreign.  I used to be the stupid and carefree 19 year old.  I used to have to ask my parents how to do stuff.  But now I'm a parent and I'm offering my encouragement to the younger crowd.

So wow.  I'm just gonna think on that one for a moment.

And the next time someone younger then me asks for my advice or how to go about something- I'll remember that I was once them.  I was you.  You are me.  We are the same.  And so I'll willingly give you what I've learned and say to you, "I would encourage you...."  And I just hope that someone older and wiser than me, will do the same when I need a little encouragement and guidance.